I just stayed at a five-star resort for a couple of days by myself last week, just a little recharge. (Because everyone knows that when Mama’s happy, everybody’s happy.) And while it was luxurious to be sure, the things I enjoyed the most were all things I could replicate at home.
So as excited as I was about launching this series on Swagger, I haven’t been able to post to it. A strange, unforeseeable, unbelievable event has happened to a dear friend and has completely taken me off my Covetworthy game. In fact, it’s rocked me to my core.
This person is not just a dear friend, but a dear sisterfriend, someone that I have known for almost 15 years. And to me, true friendship years are like dog years. So that’s enough giggles, gaffes, men, mishaps, career changes, cocktails, crushes, breakups, breakdowns and breakthroughs to fill 105 trips around the sun.
And so it’s with this on my heart and in my mind that I submit the first item for my Swagger Hall of Fame: being and having a Real Friend. (And you thought this was going to be just about Daniel Craig, hot bags and cool shoes…)
So do a quick inventory. If you’ve got one Real Friend, you’re blessed. If you’ve got more than one, cherish that, protect that, celebrate that. Right now. It could be gone or irrevocably altered in the blink of the eye.
So, for the first post in this series on Swagger, let’s start with the definition.
Swagger (SWAG-uhr): Noun.
It’s a FEELING: the ability to remain above it all, focused. Keeping your head about you when all else is going to hell in a handbag. It’s believing and acting like the chaos dumped at your heels was your stepping stone to a greater and higher place.
It’s a FORM OF CURRENCY: yet unlike most monetary units, it isn’t subject to the peaks and valleys, whims and whimsies of the global marketplace. You can’t buy with it, but it can buy you lots…respect, loyalty, and power, to name a few. At home and in the home. Abroad, as a broad, among the broads.
It’s a POWER POSITION: the corner office of cool. That DESIRED place we all strive for. It’s knowing what you’re worth and commanding full price, down to the last penny, pound or Euro.
It’s a CONSCIOUSNESS: Being fully aware of where you stand, who you stand with, who you can’t stand and what you won’t stand for.
It’s a MYSTIQUE: Choosing when, where, what and how many secrets to share. Chicks with swagger manage their magic well. They may live their lives as an open book, but they keep the juiciest parts password-protected.
It’s a LOOK: Ultimate comfort in one’s one skin, whether that skin is faux or fur, nude-colored or au naturale. You’re aware that fashion’s favorite new hue is violet, but when you rock it, rest assured that the word “shrinking” never enters anyone’s mind.
It’s a SKILL: It’s being bold enough to step up to the plate, to admit one’s missteps, and most importantly, to step aside when the situation requires.
So now you know why it’s covetworthy.
Know someone with swagger? Share this with them.